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Patricia Wheatley

September 23, 1938 - September 30, 2021


Patricia Ellen Wheatley died peacefully in her home in North Cowichan on September 30, 2021 aged 83, after a three year battle with cancer.
Pat was born near London, England on September 23, 1938. She was the second of three daughters born to Frederick William Calder and Irene Mildred Calder (Dence). She trained as an RN at Westminster Hospital, London. In 1964 she immigrated to Toronto accompanied by her good RN friend, Alice Evershed. Pat worked there as a nurse.

At a Christmas party in 1966 Pat met John Wheatley, a chartered accountant, and ten days later they were engaged. Their wedding took place in Toronto in the evening of June 30, 1967 (centenary!) Sons Giles and Clive were born in 1969 and the young family relocated to Cranbrook BC in September 1970. Daughter Harriet was born in November. Three children in 16 months were a handful! The family relocated to Parksville BC in 1974/75, then Victoria in 1982, Metchosin in 1991 (where both John and Pat retired in 1995), Shawnigan Lake in 1999, Cobble Hill in 2003, and then three homes in North Cowichan commencing in 2006. Pat made sure to leave behind a beautiful garden whenever she moved.

Pat loved theatre and came alive on the stage. She performed in many plays at Echo Players in Qualicum Beach (awarded Best Actress in the 1979 NI zone festival) and at Langham Court in Victoria. She served in every conceivable support role except director. Pat played tennis and was active in the Mill Bay club.
Pat took up running 18 years ago and was still running vigorously until struck by cancer in 2018. She won a bushel of medals in the few years that she ran competitively in the BC Seniors Games and the TC 10K.

For the past dozen years she was an active member of the Warmland Calligraphers of the CV, both on the board and as an exhibitor; that gave her a welcome outlet for her great facility with the English language, otherwise limited to doing crosswords etc. Pat was a peacemaker, above all else. She hated conflict, thought the best of everyone, was loyal (to a fault), and accordingly this endeared her to everyone. She was capable, energetic and well organized and took full advantage of her training as an office manager.

She loved her family and is survived by her husband John, her three children and their spouses Andi, Heather and Jay, and six grandchildren. Pat is survived by her sisters Susan and Marion in England. Pat was blessed in life and was able to give to others so much more than she received.

Pat received excellent medical care, especially towards the end. Special thanks to her doctors, especially Drs Elliott, Wilhelm and Adzich, the staff in the cancer clinic on 3rd floor CDH, and the Home Care and Supporters from VIHA.

Cremation was on October 6.


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From: Mike Bonin
Relation: I was related to Pat through Clive and Heather

What a most beautiful life lost. Pat will be forever in your hearts and she will look down upon you always. Deepest sympathies.

From: Jane and Alex Matheson
Relation: Pat and I met on the tennis court at the Mill Bay Tennis Club - we became friends. She was a truly lovely woman in every sense of the word. My heart goes out to her family.

We send our sincere sympathies to John, and all three of their children: Giles, Clive and Harriet, and their families on the loss of wife and mother. Pat and I spent many happy hours of the tennis court – she was a lovely player. She was a lovely person and she will be sadly missed by all who knew her.

From: Kate and John Roberts
Relation: Friend

Dear John,
We were so sorry to read in the paper about the passing of dear Pat and send you and your family our heartfelt condolences. We enjoyed meeting you both over the years (the first time walking to the Kinsol Trestle) and have fond memories of Pat acting in a pantomime at the Mercury Theatre.
Or sincere sympathy,
Kate and John Roberts

From: Gail Robb
Relation: I knew Pat through her art and calligraphy.

I am so sorry to hear of Pat’s passing. My sincerest condolences to you, John, and your family. I knew your family first through field hockey in Victoria and then here with Pat in the Warmland Calligraphers and her art at CVAC. She was always gracious, kind and welcoming.

From: David E. Smith
Relation: I knew her husband John as we went to UWO together for our MBA

TO: John Wheatley, Clive, Giles and Harriet:

I did not know Patricia but John and I were introduced in Montreal by a mutual friend -Judy Earle who knew that both of us were going to Western to take our MBA training and to do the degree. We went into residence in the first year and roomed across the hall from each other and became close friends.

Please accept condolences from myself and my wife Heather. Pat had cancer for a long time so perhaps it is a blessing that she will not have to suffer any more. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

John –let’s keep in touch as you move forward to adjusting to a new life, with smaller home and fewer possessions–please call at 403-278-3358 to chat.

David and Heather

From: Laura Ferreira and Steve Titus
Relation: I met Pat once or twice at the hockey field. My sons, Jeremy and Lee played hockey with Giles and Clive. John coached hockey with us in the Cowichan Junior Program. He also hiked with our hiking group for awhile.

Sorry to hear about Pat. Reading her story, she lived a full and active life. We just wanted to pass on our condolences to all the family at this time and to let you know we are thinking of you.

From: Jo Bodard & Jack Abercrombie
Relation: We know Pat & John as neighbours on Tarn Place in Duncan.

John and family: Jack and I were saddened to read of Pat’s passing. Pat was so cheerful and put on wonderful garden parties. Since we moved from Tarn Place we have missed our chats with her as we passed by while she was working in the garden. Our sincere condolences. Jo and Jack

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